Have you ever heard how “The Universe keeps giving us lessons until we learn the lesson”? Well I guess I needed a lot of lessons to develop patience, but thankfully I made progress; it just took a long time! This past year, I kept realizing what little patience I had, but wanting to become more patient. And while I wasn’t intentionally working on becoming patient, the experiences I had throughout my life taught me to become more patient. These are my realizations about what I learned from experiences:
Simply described, I realized that becoming patient is achieved by practicing LETTING GO! I found becoming patient requires…
…letting go of:
- Forcing anything– Patience is letting things happen naturally, slowly over time; this removes stress and adds peacefulness to our lives when we realize forcing something into our ideal time frame really doesn’t work. Sometimes it’s as simple as letting time pass; some things naturally work out on their own over time.
- Mistakes: – keep improving when we mess up or life gets messed up, hit reset…a new beginning! It’s okay to keep starting over when something doesn’t work, it’s not permanent failure, it’s only temporary failure! Patience lets us accept our mistakes and try again. Each time we try again, we develop our patience and have another opportunity for success.
- Expectations of Others – this is out of our control anyway, so practice patience with others, don’t fit them into “our box”, “our way of thinking”, “our way of acting”: everyone is different, let go of expectations and let it happen as it is (Having patience with others will bring us peacefulness: when we have no expectations; there is no let down) Others are who they are- accept them “as is” work with them as they are.
- The future – we are not guaranteed a future. All we have is our time, here and now. We need to have goals or we will never accomplish anything in life and wander aimlessly, but this is about being present in the moment doing what we need today to reach our goals, pay attention to what is happening in our lives at the moment, don’t overthink the future, we don’t know the future and can’t predict it. Patience lets the future unfold as it is intended and the future is more greatly affected by what effort we put in today anyway.
- Fear– taking on the next challenge, pushing ourselves to do something we never thought we would or could do. Patience is developed as we slowly see progress along the way, in overcoming fears or achieving certain goals over time; then we realize that having patience helps us accomplish things in life.
- Control – have faith in God providing what we need in life, not always what we expect, or on our time-frame, but what we need, letting go and letting God take over. We become patient when we believe that God will guide us and provide for us; we have no anxiety. We are not in control of what happens to us anyway, only how we react to what happens to us.
- Seriousness– it’s great to laugh as often as possible; we need laughter to help get through being patient when things take time and frustrate us!
- ONLY celebrating first place wins, acknowledge that second place is progress, celebrating the journey and the small wins along the way keeps positive motivation flowing. Recognizing small wins develops patience and the dedication needed for the big wins.
- The way we think it should be – change happens and we need to adjust ourselves to address the changes we experience; there is more than one way to do things.
- The past – let go of the past, something that didn’t work, didn’t work out for us: never settle. Never settling requires patience because it takes awhile before we find what is best for us.
So if we want patience, focus on letting go!