What is my (our) Purpose in Life?

About five years ago, this question became more important to me: “What is my purpose in life?”

(To be honest, this question was lingering in me, unrecognized as a teenager too, but I never put much thought into it. I would make decisions about my future when I felt like I was running out of time, and had to choose something, then I’d quickly make a decision, go with it, figuring out how to make it work over time.)

As time passed, I truly wanted to know the answer because I felt like there had to be more to life. I felt like I had been wasting time, and didn’t want to continue this way, so I started searching for the answer. I can remember thinking: “We can’t just be here to eat, sleep, and do whatever it is that keeps us busy during the day and night?” There should be something more important, more meaningful in life, than “existing and taking up space:” a Purpose.

I finally stumbled upon the answer to this question in the Bible:

“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10

So the answer is: God created each of us with a specific purpose to fulfill. But when we find an answer like this, let’s be honest: “Who is looking to do MORE work and have MORE responsibilities than we already have?” Probably not many, UNLESS the REWARD is worth it, right? So is the reward worth it? YES! For this answer to be personally true, meaningful and understood for each of us, it requires a relevant context, because without that, we are probably not interested.

So why is this information relevant to each and every person?

It is relevant because it affects our future: what happens to us and is something that only we, personally, can direct, through our daily choices. To receive the reward, we must have faith in Jesus, however we will be judged on our faith through our actions (our works and obeying the Ten Commandments). “Faith without works is dead.” James 2:14-26

So why would we trust what the Bible has to say?

The information in the Bible is from God, our creator, Who speaks only in truth, and reveals some of the mysterious aspects of our existence through the Bible about what is happening and why it is happening. The Bible is an historical book providing reasons why some events took place, giving proof of God through miraculous events, prophesies that came true and through living proof when Jesus was present on earth and teaching, died and rose from the dead. All of this was done to help us, strengthen us and for God to see what choice we will make once we find out and learn about this. (Think about this: Have you ever evaluated a relationship to see if it was worthwhile? That’s what God’s doing with us: He’s giving us a choice about a relationship with Him.)

The Bible is like an “open book test”: the answers are there, but will we seek them and then apply them to be successful? What we are experiencing in our lives right now is something more significant in process: it is a test with a significant reward (heaven/eternal life), if we are successful and horrible consequences (hell) if we fail. So this is why it is important to know what’s in the Bible and apply what we learn.

This is personal: the best way to get answers to our individual questions is by reading the Bible and praying for the understanding of what we read, because this is how God communicates with us; God will provide clarity, directly to each of us when we are looking for answers in the Bible and through prayer. Seek God first in everything. (Matthew 6:33)

So getting back to our purpose in life, I wondered: We were created to do what specific “good works”?

Doing these “good works” and obeying is evidence of our Faith, which is required to receive God’s reward and our life right now is a TEST. The day-to-day “worldly” things that we experience and worry about are truly UNIMPORTANT and INSIGNIFICANT when we understand the high level reason we were created and what we should have our focus. There is so much to focus on in life, but if we make God the priority and focus in our minds, everything else will fall into place. That’s why the Bible tells us not to worry: God provides what we need in support of His plan for us. (Side note: this also explains the reason for some unanswered prayers.) This also requires faith; we have to have faith in God to really believe that He provides, but little by little as our faith grows, we start seeing this come true, which grows our faith.

Getting back to “good works” I also found this answer:

“We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.” Romans 12:6

The gifts, given by God for the purpose God determined when He created us, are:

  1. Prophesying: boldly proclaiming God’s word
  2. Serving: physical and spiritual help provided to others
  3. Teaching: applying information from the Bible in a clear, accurate and understanding way to others
  4. Encouraging: motivating others to take action and fulfill their purpose
  5. Giving: providing material and financial resources to others
  6. Leading: various Leadership Roles
  7. Showing Mercy: comforting those in need

What gift is mine?

When we work using the specific gift we were created for, our actions happen with ease, we are comfortable and enjoy what we are doing, using the gift feels natural to us, personally. The specific gift we were given is also something that others will notice in us, and likely tell us we seem so “natural” in our actions when operating in that way.

Life is complicated, but the overall simple goal and purpose for us is to Love. Love God and each other.

In summary: God created each of us for a specific purpose of His, and provides us unique gifts to fulfill His plan; which also means every person is very important and is here for a reason!

“Love, Sex & Dating”

Wow!  I just finished this book and found the information so valuable that it was worth sharing: The New Rules for Love, Sex & Dating  (link to Amazon if you want to purchase) if only I had read this when I was 17! I highly recommend this book (written for both men and women audiences) if:

  • You’re single
  • You’re in a relationship
  • You’re married, yes even if you’re married!
  • You’re any age, thinking about dating soon
  • Your parents divorced
  • Your parents stayed married but weren’t the best relationship role models

The book discusses:  what love truly is, what love isn’t, what happens when sex is involved, the effect of American cultural influences and how to find “the right one”.  If you’re married or in a relationship, the book is still relevant because you can improve your relationship by applying the principles of love covered in the book and become “the right one” for each other, if that seems to be missing.

Finding “The Right One” Euphoria: (Chapter 1) everyone who experiences finding “the right one,” wants this to last forever: fun, exciting, effortless, passionate, great chemistry, nothing could top this, pure happiness – yet this is exactly where our greatest troubles can begin, if it’s truly not “the right one, the only one, the one we marry” and/or you or the other person is not prepared.

“Divorce statistics:  67% of second and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.”  Why? One or more people are not prepared for the commitment due to unresolved: dependency issues, addiction issues, relationship track record, financial issues, moral issues, etc.

Being Prepared:  (Chapters 2, 3 and 4) what does it take to be prepared for “finding the right one”?  We need to become “the right person” we seek.  All the qualities we want in “the right one” we need to exhibit in ourselves. The healthier we are for being in a relationship, the healthier our relationship will be.  Basically work on ourselves before seeking “the right one”.  “Like attracts like.”

Love. (Chapter 5) Many think we know what “love” means, but the book defines real love.  This love definition is something probably many of us heard before, but don’t stop when you read that, take the time to read further into the provided examples of how those words apply to your relationship.  Try a self examination to see if you are a person who truly exhibits “love.”  When I read it, it was clear that I had work to do.  Reading it, I wondered if anyone masters these traits, or is this something that we continually need to go back to for check ups, reminders of what it means to love?  To receive love, we need to give love.

And the following are probably better left to the book:

(Chapter 6) just for men.

(Chapter 7) “The Way Forward”

(Chapter 8 & 9) Sex

(Chapter 10) The Upcoming Year- action plan

This book may challenge and change your thoughts.