Someone sent me a message today that made me stop and think: The message started with a personal reflection from the sender, then said: “I’m not sending this to you because I think you are self-absorbed, I’m sending it to you because I think we all need a reminder of 2 things,” the message had an uplifting video link and shared the thought of living a “fulfilled life” by:
- helping others selflessly and
- taking risks to live life full, with no regrets.
My initial thought was: “Yeah, I completely ascribe to that!” But seriously, would any of you just dismiss the “self-absorbed” part of the message? Not me! I pay attention to what people say and it made me reflect. Ugh, I didn’t like my self-reflection, when I reflected! I looked at my social media accounts (blog, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc.) and what I’ve posted. Yes, I hope that sharing my thoughts, experiences and stories might help others, but it seriously appears self-absorbed! And quite honestly, it has been. The past year has been a deep reflection period for me and writing was a release of what was in my thoughts, trying to clear my head. But who cares about that?! Well, if it helps someone, then it’s worthwhile, but if it’s not helping anyone, no one cares about that stuff! It’s kind of like an online journal. Seriously!
This led me to recognizing an analogy between periods in our lives and the seasons of the year; we each have our own seasons in life; just like the year. Our “seasons” in life are based on what is happening in our individual lives (and that timing is unique to each person’s circumstances), the person we portray at that time depends on the season we are in, but isn’t the complete picture of someone:
Our “Winter Season”
…consists of self-reflection or sadness – “the hibernation time”
Our “Spring Season”
…consisting of education and growth
Our “Summer Season”
…carefree, enjoying life, sharing with others, family and friends
Our “Fall Season”
…helping others and giving back, the holidays are even an example of this season: Thanksgiving leading up to Christmas
It seems like we need to go through each season to arrive at the next, but if we stay stuck in one season too long and don’t experience the other seasons, it negatively affects us, or others, or both.
Throughout life we can’t avoid these “seasons”; and they ultimately help us. We may be in a certain season of life when others are in a different season and then it becomes hard to relate to one another during those times in different seasons.
Because of this, it’s important to think of others and try to understand what “season of life” they are in, to relate to them better, to have empathy, to be able to help others selflessly. For example, if we are in a “Winter Season” or “Spring Season” we may not be ready to help others; we need that time to focus on ourselves.
I believe it is important to take time to focus on getting ourselves in a “good” state before we can truly help others to the best of our abilities. And yes, there are exceptions, as in being a parent: we can’t just quit that job to focus on ourselves, so it’s not always going to be easy, but hopefully our family and friends will recognize that season when it happens and help us have that personal time when it’s needed in life. And similarly, we should help our family and friends when we see them in a certain season of life. It’s not always all about us! Living a full life with no regrets happens when we understand our own season in life: if we are in one season, there will be others that follow; always think forward to the positive and don’t regret where we are in life, because it’s just a phase, a season and there are more seasons to experience.
Enjoy life’s journey and be compassionate to others!