It’s 4:30 am and this is what comes to mind? Well, why not write about it? Most people are probably still sleeping, so when this happens to me, seemingly out of nowhere, it’s time to write about it, because it doesn’t happen all the time.
Tomorrow will be one month before February 14, 2017…. Valentine’s Day, so maybe it’s a good time to do this? If you’ve seen the acronym CRM in business: Customer Relationship Management, this is somewhat related, but in this, it’s personal and it relates to Change, Relationships and Music.
“Passion for Music” probably means a lot of different things to different people, but for me, it means music is a constant in my life, and will always be, I’m rarely in silence from the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep, music surrounds me and I couldn’t imagine it any other way! That is why I refer to it as a passion of mine. Music has an incredible power and can literally change an emotional state for us, that fact still completely amazes me! If I think about that fact, music truly is more powerful than drugs or medication; it really is!
Here are a few links and examples of this: Music is a source and a gift for health and wellness and used for the following, to name a few:
Military, Autism, Alzheimer’s, Correctional Facilities, Trauma, Medicine, Pain Management, Young Children, Depression, Substance Abuse
Getting back to music and relationships, for me, and others I know, a certain song will bring back memories of a person, an experience or a specific time in life, just like a photograph does! Music captures the emotional state of being in that moment of our memory. What we remember in life is our experiences and how the experience made us feel and if music is a part of someone’s life, it gets tied to music, good or bad! The same holds true for people in our memories, what we remember in life may not be the exact words spoken, but how the person made us feel.
It’s interesting how we may relate a certain genre of music, a musician, or a song to a person in our life, just because of an experience. I am one who connects first with the melody, the rhythm, the sound, including the voice. The music can be amazing alone, but when the right voice is paired, it becomes incredible and irreplaceable. Eventually I learn the words, but I have friends who immediately seem to pick up all the lyrics. I connect with the message in the lyrics, but I’m usually one of the last to memorize the exact words for some reason.
Change can be uncomfortable, even when change is chosen, it happens when a person finally faces the fear of the unknown and decides facing the fear is better than remaining the same. Change makes us grow, improve and learn, but it’s not easy. In my experience, music helps us get through change. Sometimes change happens without our choice, but it always seems to result in growth, self- improvement and learning if we stay positive with our outlook and thoughts during the change.
Change can be good, sometimes it forces us to do things we never thought we would be able to do. We may not know our strength, until the only choice we have is to be strong. Change is about improvement and improvement is good!
Change is also about becoming a better person, it doesn’t matter how long we’ve been a certain way, if we don’t like that way, we can change it at any time, but it’s a decision that only we can make, no one can make that decision for us. Because change is uncomfortable, we need to want that change more than anything because the effort to change will require commitment and isn’t easy, it’s work. But I believe we can be anything we desire, it just takes effort; nothing lasting comes without continual effort and commitment. If we want it, work for it!
We learn the most about relationships from experiences and observations. And those who’ve had a lot of life experiences know more, but the key to success is applying what we know, experienced and learned to improve our relationships.
This relates to the “Never Settle” topic: if we learn something once from a bad experience, then don’t settle into that familiar place again, because if we are not making a change, we are likely going to get the same results and that is how people get stuck and stay stuck, don’t do it.
Experience also relates to recognizing good experiences and applying them. We often become so immersed and self-absorbed in what’s happening in our lives, that we forget to be grateful for what we have and forget to show appreciation for those important to us. That forgetfulness lowers our quality of life in relationships. Relationships need attention and when it’s not given, the relationship suffers. It’s important to recognize what we value in life, what means the most to us. We don’t have unlimited time, so the time we do have should be spent on what is most important: our priorities.
Relationships will always experience change and they only last if there is a reciprocal involvement, they don’t if it’s one-sided. Let that person, who is important in your life know they are important. Relationships are constant work, but rewarding. If we get lazy with relationships, we can lose them. If those who are important to us are not treated as a priority, we lose them.
CRM- Change, Relationships, Music
Pulling all these topics together, there are some good examples of people doing things right, and I personally respect them for this. My blog since inception has been tied into Instagram, which is an interesting media, and powerful, so be careful how it’s used because it can make a difference: both good and bad as I’ve experienced. As you know, I love music and follow some of my favorite musicians on Instagram. I look forward to posts about upcoming events or concert details because sometimes that is the way I find out about new festivals, events, etc. I also like seeing the journey musicians go through: the creation, behind the scenes joking, and rising in success; Instagram is a great tool for connecting with fans. There is also something that some do well and that is appearing authentic and inspiring. While we all know that no one is perfect (everyone is human and imperfect), and everything is not as it appears on social media, there are a few who do something a little different and step out of the norm. I can’t even imagine what it is like for musicians and their partners to have a long-term relationship, talk about a massive amount of work to keep it real and keep it a priority especially with all the outside influences! But there are a few who seem to do this well, they appear genuine, know their priorities, live by them and are very inspiring people because of this. They have a special gift – musically talented and staying true to, and publicly acknowledging, their values, especially in a culture that often glamorizes the opposite. These are a few that stand out to me:
There is also one more on this list, who isn’t really in the music arena…yet (haha)…but if you follow him and know his very early on comedy scripts, you will know the tremendous amount of change that he has been through, a master of change and very inspiring: @kevinhart4real
There is no time like the present to Make It Count – create an incredible relationship this year and get out, enjoy the music!